What’s it like once you’ve battled those initial doubts and decided to launch a business? Today, I’m delighted to introduce you to Richard Hearn who trains disassociated young people to adopt positive workplace habits and brokers work experience placements. Here, he shares his motivation for starting his business, Generation Me, and what prompted him to reach out for a helping hand.
“Never go in to a meeting without knowing what you want to get out of it. The chances are if meeting someone for the first time, they will not have thought through their position, which puts you at an advantage to attaining what you want… Assuming, of course, that you know what that is?!”
Far better advice than my usual approach of “I’ll wing it, I do better on the spot”
I have always been someone who took decisions based on my heart more than my head. I quickly realised that unless I learnt to utilise both of these I would continue to run in to the same problems. Starting a social enterprise has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I had idealism of a world where I had creative control, where simplicity ruled and I could do away with the bureaucracy that I had come to despise. If I were to plot my journey so far on to a graph, there would be very few stable periods; it’s all about highest of highs and the lowest of low. Despairing at times.
I took part on in a 3-month coaching programme with Step & Stone. I needed a ‘wise counsel’ and I didn’t want to say no to any opportunity. In truth I couldn’t afford it. I’d been going several months and not earned a penny, but I was feeling vulnerable and lonely and beginning to get sick of neglecting the same problems that I didn’t know how to overcome.
I knew a bit about coaching. I knew that it wasn’t there to give you answers, but rather help you evaluate and provide options about how you think and approach things. It’s objective and helps remove the emotional aspect and ego that often clouds your vision. In truth answers were exactly what I wanted, but I realised I had to develop myself if I was going to be an effective business owner. Up until now my philosophy had been ‘if I can’t do it, find someone who can – even if it means paying’, but this was not a sustainable approach…
Danielle’s coaching was stressful at times, but necessarily so as it took me out my comfort zone and confronted me with the questions I was scared to ask myself. It gave me someone to be accountable to that I felt I was lacking in myself.
Step & Stone was several things…
- The blood sweat and tears (but thankfully no blood or tears were actually spilt)
- The stage fright before the pitch
- The safe space to bare your insecurities
But less corny!!
It introduced me to the term ‘self sabotage’ and made me realise that, as the all-encompassing figure of my enterprise, I was the best and the worst of it.
I think about some of our coaching sessions and cringe, lots of rambling, thinking out loud and straying off topic. I felt I was coming off badly and like I didn’t know what I was doing, but Danielle was rational and objective. My rambling didn’t matter and it was reassuring to hear that I wasn’t the only one who goes through tribulations and doubts. I wasn’t able to overcome everything all at once and there’s still things I’m working on (and no doubt will be for a long time), but it did help me identify what was holding me back and how I could approach these things in a way that might work for my personality.
Today I’m rebuilding from scratch. I’ve had setbacks, some my fault, some I stubbornly blame others for, but that’s just the imperfect me trying to make a go of things.
If, like me, you’re trying to be a better all-rounder, be more self-sufficient or more strategic, I would recommend business coaching with Step & Stone. In order to get the most out of it, it helps if you’re clear about what you’re trying to achieve or improve on and I’d recommend you plan in advance of to sessions in order to make the maximum use of time.
Thanks to Danielle at Step & Stone for being a challenging, but enjoyable part of my journey.
over to you
Do you find yourself making decisions more from the heart than from the head? As always, I love to hear from you, so in the comments below let us know a time that it has worked well and a time that it has backfired.
is strategy missing from your startup?
If you’re inspired by Richard’s journey and want to know how being more strategic can propel you forward in your business, then check out our 1×1 support program Six Steps for Getting Strategic. Practical, supportive sessions so you feel prepared to take on both the highs and the lows of the startup journey. Book your free consultation here.
pass it on
Loved this post? Then use the icons below to tweet it, like it on Facebook and send it to specific friends via email.